Tuesday, January 20, 2009
When my Uncle Dudley died in July of 2007, my entire family was heartbroken. He had long been a backbone that our family depended on. When he died, it was left to his only daughter, Arianne, to put the peices back together.
In a way, she had been lucky that he laid out directions for her. He not only had his wishes listed in a will, but he had also written notes to her during the months that he was sick that laid out his wishes and gave her encouragement. What he wished for was to not have a funeral because he always said that he hated funerals. Instead of focusing on the life that he had lost, he wanted the focus to be on the life that he had lived. So, he decided that he wanted a Celebration of Life, which would give everyone a chance to celebrate the life that he led.
So, Arianne rented a large banquet hall and got a caterer to serve my Uncle's favorite meals, and she sent out invitations (the event took over a month to plan), and people came out of the woodwork to attend. (In fact, so many people wanted to attend, that some people had to be turned down for the celebration of life and invited to other parties).
Everyone was dressed formally in black ties and fancy dresses when they arrived (just as my Uncle's wishes) and everyone enjoyed themselves as they told wonderful stories of my uncle. After we ate some of his favorite foods, there was a slide show that was beautiful. Then, everyone had a chance to speak to the crowd, which was wonderful.
So, if as your preparing your will (which, as morbid as it is, is very important), you might want to consider having a Celebration of Life.
Posted by Elyse at 7:58 AM